I’m sick and tired of being good,
I’m tired of doing what I “should.”
When I do what you want me to
The benefits to me are few.
But I’ve been so well trained to fear
What happens if we don’t adhere
To all the rules we’re taught will keep
Us safe from wolves (obedient sheep)
That I’m no longer even sure
Of what I want; I just endure
Days and weeks and months and years
Of subservience to collective fears.
You say that I must earn my pleasures
By dancing to society’s measures,
Following norms I had no choice in making
With most of my waking hours yours for the taking.
But now I’m making a different choice
And listening to my inner voice
That tells me which rules I want to follow
And which make me choke when I try to swallow.
“Everyone does it” is not an excuse
For allowing myself to be seduced
Into a life that’s unfulfilling
In so many ways—I must be willing
To sever my ties to what you have taught me.
I am not the person you’ve always thought me.
The “good little girl” is growing into
A woman committed to learning what’s true
For herself regardless of what she is told.
She’s scared, but determined, and will not be sold
On a story that keeps her inside of your cages.
She wants to be daring and free and courageous
In facing her fear and her anger and doubt
Along with her laughter and joy, letting out
The pressure that’s built up for much too long
By struggling so hard all those years to belong
To a system she never really believed in.
So I’m waving goodbye now, truly leaving
Your heart-grinding tedium far behind,
Unless you’d like to change your mind
And come along, too. I could use some companions
When fording the rivers and crossing the canyons
I’ll surely encounter along the way—
But make your decision. I’m leaving today.
Tags: authenticity, self-acceptance, self-worth
Wow wow wow wow wow!!!!!!! I don’t even know what to say except WOW! I am so thrilled and moved and excited for you, Michelle. Can’t wait to watch you make it happen.
Now that sounds like a true dammit if I ever heard one!
Rock on Michelle! So happy for you. And inspired! Big hugs — and how much do I love this poem? I’m printing a copy and putting it in my office.
Wow MIchelle! This is awesome. You are really claiming your power this year, and it’s only February!
LOVE this…feels like it needs a melody so I could be singing it all day long…
Thanks, everyone! And Pearl, if you’d like to set it to a melody . . . be my guest!
I’ve been following your blog for awhile and have really resonated with many of your entries. I love this post! I hope you don’t mind if I link it in my blog. I think there are quite a few people who can understand this feeling and will feel inspired by it.
Hi, Tiptoe! I’m so glad you’re finding so much resonance in what I’m posting. And absolutely do feel free to link to it in your blog–I’m honored!
Speaking of your blog, it looks like there’s plenty there that resonates with me, too. I’ve just subscribed to it.
A-FREAKING-MEN!
ohmyword!ohmyword!ohmyword!ohmyword! This is fantastic — the big underlying thang with square-peg-people & square-peg reflections (site and blog) IS mindful nonconformity – and you just wrote the book on that – yowzer, so so great!!
Square-Peg Karen´s last blog ..Show ‘N Tell
@Square-Peg Karen – So you saw my comment on your “Show and Tell” post, eh? ;o) (Folks, go and read it–it’s lovely!)
I remember the day I wrote this. I’d been struggling for a couple of *weeks* trying to write a post about these issues, which are huge for me right now…and nothing was coming.
Then I thought, “Well, why not a poem?” And BAM! It started rolling out of me. Not easily and not quickly, but powerfully.
It’s so good to meet you, because I *definitely* feel like a square-peg person in a round-hole world. We need to stick together!